1. Are they supportive?
Often wedding planning comes with a truckload of responsibilities and checklists. In the lead-up and on the big day, you’re going to need more help than at (almost) any other time.
Most of the fun, anticipation, and excitement comes from sharing your wedding experience with the ones you love.
When choosing your bridesmaids, it’s essential to choose friends or family who’ll be supportive of you, your fiancé, and your decisions. Helpful bridesmaids can help to ease the weight of wedding planning.
Before you pick your bridesmaids, consider these two important qualities
2. Will they be committed?
Are your bridesmaids readily available to engage in and commit fully to your wedding?
If their work is particularly demanding or they have other urgent priorities, like family, pregnancy, or study, they may not be the best fit. Friends who live far away may have difficulty participating in the activities and events you have planned.
It doesn’t need to be nasty or get personal either. Sometimes your lives are going in different directions and that’s okay too.
3. Is this my choice?
When it comes time to pick your bridesmaids, there’s every possibility your fiancé, friends, and even family will want to make their opinions heard too. Sometimes, they may even suggest who you should choose as your bridesmaids for your wedding day.
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again; obligation never works.
While many will have suggestions and recommendations, you need to be honest and clearly communicate what you want. This is also great practice for marriage.
Including someone in your wedding party because you feel you should is a recipe for hurt feelings later on.
4. Will they still love me tomorrow?
The people who you have long-term relationships with are more likely to still be around after your wedding day too.
If you can’t picture being good friends with your bridesmaids in 5 or 10 years time you might need to remove them from your list.
Other signs that your friendship isn’t as strong as you think might be
5. Will they make our wedding even more special?
Are the bridesmaids you choose going to make your wedding celebrations more memorable and fun? If they are likely to be negative or passive-aggressive, it might be best to exclude them.
Your wedding day should be your happiest day and shouldn’t be ruined because of an insensitive bridesmaid.
If any of your friends are always spreading negative energy, they will never make your wedding party fun. Do not hesitate to keep them out of your bridesmaids.